Would you send your child to military school?

My 15 year old son is out of control and it's not the normal teenage behavior we've all gone through. I have tried everything, restriction, bribes, threats, you name it I've tried it. I recently looked into a military school in my state and I feel this would be the best option at this point. I welcome any suggestions.

i have a daughter 15 years old but she is too good i can say,
sometimes i believe will be hard for her to face reality

she like study and no want hard about clubs and boys yet

she spend too much time at computer but also study mathe-info at scholl ,so her future job will be at computer

im worried for eyes problems and i didnt liked mathe at school,i suppose she have more brain than me

so i think boys are more rebels ,is about age

he need love and understanding

if he want go at a military school is ok,let him go is not a punishment in my eyes

i would suggest a sportiv school

but what he doing so bad?

at my age i also do sometimes bad things,yelling or do crisis

i believe adults are the bad ones not kids

my wife works at military. i would never send my kid to military school but thats my opinion

Have you tried with sports ? Obv he has too much energy and in order to get it out of his system best way is to do sports.

Ah, teenagers are handful. just try to somehow occupy his time, sports - that's great, Maybe even some extreme sports; you probably have a lot of options. And also important to give him space, just try to stay away. But these are just general suggestions, since your dynamic is probably specific.

Rules and clear consequences should help a bit, but you need to stick to them and stay firm.

Yes, I think that military school would be my last option, and would do everything to avoid it.

I wouldn't send anybody in a military school. I can't myself obey rules without personal judgement. Plus, I hate nationalism and the "rally round the flag" effect...

i wouldnt send anybody nowhere

my daughter choose where to go at school,of course give exam,

but for myself i like it a military school to make me strong and faster 

to follow rules,why not?

I would not send anybody to military school because my personal opinion is that I do not support any kind of military activity 

Well as a guy who didnt go to military because our country made it only professional i would definitely send my kid because it makes you more of a man i think. Males today are weak, dont know how to fix anything, and in my opinion that is not how it is supposed to be. Females i dont know, only if she wants to go then let her.

well, i think children (male children) of today have tooo little of physical education and no habits for exercise and that's not good.

in military school they could learn about healthy life and, in general, life in move. by the way, they could learn about living under discipline and boss complaints.

Wow...

I'm a man, there is no doubt about that. But I'm gay. And I like football, and I like fixing things. And I like beer, and I practice judo. There are many ways to be a man. Just tell me: what do you mean by weak? Tell me what a real man is in the first place? And then tell me "what is supposed to be"?

No. Military is waste of time and money. Only good thing is making a nice habits for life, but if you are good parent you will teach him yourself. Not blaming anyone, just saying that I believe that any behavior that your son has comes from something in his childhood.

Have you tried counselling, that was not on your list. But in saying that if there are no other options once you get professional advice then maybe.

nowdays, all modern militarys are professional, but people should go to six-months drill.

Depends on the child . IMO a parent knows their child better then anyone (in most cases ).  Sometimes sending them to school could be bad. So many horror stories and kids being bullied . Darn i wish kids came with a hand book  . You do the best you can and hope it's the right choice .

        I know when I was a kid my dad would threaten me with military school.    I'm  not sure if he really meant it but it scared the Hell out of me.    Needless  to say,  I was rather well behaved.    And by the way,
my son is 15  and there is no way  I  would ever send him to military school.    Just don't see the need.

bongo, your father probably just scare you with military school. which year you were born? military schools are not same in 50's and 70' or 80'

  1963 .    I  agree  Djuka,  the schools  in the 70's  (for me)  I'm  sure would have been pretty scary.

I guess in some countries it really is required for a child to attend a military or civil service in Asian countries like Korea when a guy reach a certain age then he will need to do his obligation to the country. There's nothing wrong with that, I mean it will help in tightening the defense of the country itself.

I think it depends heavily upon the child.. and i dont necessarily think it should be used as a "punishment" i mean I dont think its a bad idea if the kid is heading down a bad direction, however sometimes things like this can actually make it worse.. getting to the root of the problem is more important.. but for MOST kids.. i dont think it would hurt them. * they might hate ya for a minute tho!

So much thumbs up for this post!

And replying to this post, I wouldn't do that. I can't think of any reason why would I even consider it ever.

Did you try to consult a competent psychologist?

If his behavior is, as you say, not normal, it may be a personality disorder. In that case, military school won't help, it will only make it worse.

Thank you for everyones feedback. To answer some questions my son has been going to a therapist who specializes in adolescent psychotherapy. He actually likes going to therapy. As far as sports go he's tried everything out and the only thing that he likes to do is skate boarding. His school has water polo, golfing, football, basketball, etc. He has many options and he doesn't like any of them. When I first posted this it was a preview of what was to come in the following weeks, drinking, smoking pot, and stealing. My brother was sent to military school for 5 years and that seem to straighten him out. At this point my ex husband and I can't seem to get a handle on him. My biggest fear is that he's going to eventually get arrested or dead from experimenting from harder drugs. Military school will teach him discipline and respect. I'm visiting one in Virginia in two weeks. I'll be spending the day there to get a feel for what goes on a daily basis. The amount of money that it costs for a year is $42,000, so trust me a lot of consideration has gone into this matter.

I would send my kid to military school for sure. I think that it should be at least half of a year must in every country. You see what is going on with the world, it seems like it is on the edge of a war

Hell no. We need more brain and less guns. Plus, as mentioned before, I can't obey rules I disagree with, or protect interests I'm unaware of. I refuse to be a pawn on anybody's chessboard.

for discipline,self-control,strenght,power

not training to kill people

                                                                :'$  Good Lord Never Eva  :'$
Maybe if my Kid was showing behaviors of a narcissistic sociopath, then i'm all in but not until then!

I always wanted children more then anything but because of my psychiatric diagnose cant risk and wont try getting with my girlfriend.
I think if so we woudnt send two military if not own choice

No. Under no circumstances.

Det er også min mening This is my opinion as well

I think the military school may be good for our kids, without which grow in vice and bad manners. Send your children in military schools and let them grow up with this concept

no because I don't support war and violence. ofcourse if that is his choice I wouln'd have anything against that

Im pretty sure we dont have that here, I think you can do caddets or something like that but not actual military school. I think that is very extreme and I could not imagine doing that. But if my child were in deep trouble, as in about to hurt someone then Id consider it I guess. Dr Phil said that sometimes its good for there to be seperation  between parents and child while each work on their issues and improve themselves to be better once they come back together.

That depends on child's behavior. Kids these days are different in such many things than kids ten years ago. So, for more 5 years, things will be more different. So, I think I would send my kid to millitary school, because that is a big chance for him/her to learn how to fight for themselves and for life, and I also think that is a great honor to defend country :)

I will never send my son to military school! 

I also don't support war and violence, but I don't see anything bad in military school. If you don't like the name "military" you may call such school "cadet school" and etc. I 'm not about the name, I'm about the meaning. There the child learns the order and learn how to fight for himself. And in my opinion here there is nothing to worry about.

My daughter always tells me she is not afraid to send my granddaughter to military school. I let myngranddaughter know her mom is telling the truth, she already sent my granddaughter's brother to the Air Force.

Two or three years ago the son of my friend decided to go to military school. It was his own decision. Now he is OK. He is glad and feel himself good. Don't see any problems in the child studying there ).

I would never send my future child to a military school. I would like to have a  child with spirit of freedom!

I think that spirit of freedom does not depend on military school or any other schools... If a child graduates from military school it's not necessary that he will become a military man in the future. It just seems to me that they teach a discipline and order there. And freedom is primarily an internal state.

I will if he or she wants to go to military school but if he or she does not want to go to military school i'll let her choose what he or she wants to be in the future.I will let him or her to decide what he or she wants to be in the future because its not for me to decide what he or she wants to be.

no i wouldnt send my child or any child to military school

What I'm asking my self is that if your son is like that, and you take him to military school, won't it make him more rigid and distant towards you? I suggest you look for the root cause. It may be (his father leaving, losing a loved one, sheer stubbornness or something else) but just try very hard to get through to him before taking him to military school. Thanks 

I'd send my child to military school if that's something he/she wants to do. It should be the childs choice and you support it no matter what.