I know that we've talked about online relationships and things that happen, do they work or not, what to expect and not.. but this just blows my mind, maybe i'm foolish or whatever, but this really hurt me..

I met a guy online, i'm making a long story short and getting to the point of it all, anyway for months we'd talk for hours about anything and everything, we had a hell of alot in common, really had a good time and enjoyed him emensly, even got to the point where i depended on speaking with him when i got home from work, sometimes i wouldn't even go out just to stay home and talk with him, he was in intelligent, im talking encyclopedia intelligent, he was decent, respectful, kind, understanding, caring, alot of fun, extremely humorous, we talked about his family and the goings on.. he would send me alot of pictures of himself and videos too, i didn.t doubt this man, and gained alot of trust in him.. Well one day he started talking about his "personailty" explaining that he had one that was very strong, i'm thinking what am i missing, at the same time he sends me a nude provacative photo.. puts me in this uncomfortable spot of trying to get out the right words to comment, i finally say.."nice" but thats not what i really want to say..im beside myself thinking omg i hope this guy isn't some kind of weirdo, then think well whats so weird about a nude photo,then thought i didn't ask for it and this never came up in our conversations..then it comes out of him,he wanted some nude provacative photos of me, he elaborated on his personailty explaining is his smart tactful intelligent words that, women to him are nothing more then a piece of something to get his rocks off, if they can't provide that they are useless... i declined and he "deleted" me. Maybe it's so remote..but i wanted to cry.. i felt so bad..it hurt me..i mean we really laughed and cried together about things,complimented each other.. it felt very genuine in alot of the aspects of this relationship.. All those months wasted into a man that wasn't who he said and acted to be.. a man i really liked and was interested in even wanting to meet.. and who i thought was interested and liked me, who i thought about meeting and made plans.. actually cared about, but realizing he worked on finding out the kind of man i like.. made himself into someone or something i was looking for in a man, then tried to trap me in to this...

Whats your comments and opinions on this?

I think they call it "grooming".  You were groomed Imagin.  So sorry but he had a plan from the start - to get nude pics of you.  That much is clear from the fact that he deleted you when you wouldn't comply.  Everything that had gone before was bs.

I'm so sorry - it sounds as though you are really hurting a lot.  You will get over it and then you will wonder how you could have been so conned of your emotions.

B******!

blue

So sorry to hear that Imagin... unfortuantely it is more probable to meet a weirdo that a normal guy. Hang in there, someone truly nice will certainly come around.

   Sorry that you were hurt

Sorry about that Imagin, I can understand that it hurts. But I agree with Gabby, its good that he showed his real face before you could become even more involved in the relationship.

I think what took him so long is MAYBE he did care for me, and also he knew i'm conservative in nature, and my thoughts exactly why was this so sudden, he just sprung it on me,but i do beleive he meant it because he sent the nudes of himself, possibly he got tired of his sharade..and just as soon as i declined to send nudes, he was gone..i beleive he does have some girls he dates, maybe it's an ego thing or something.. i dont know.. I do feel bad, kind of like in the end of it all thats all i was good for, or me being me just wasn't good enough? But then again i think.. maybe he thought i thought he was'nt good enough for me.. still he put himself in that possition..


p.s. lol froggy...it wasn't a hum dinger... lmao

You're right blue and everyone, my feeings about sending nude photos to anyone over the internet is just... no, they could end up in places like a website or in the hands of some predator. I beleive anything sexual or intimate between two people should be live and in color, but in the days i used to hang out in Yahoo chat, there were girls by the dozens that didn't give a dern giving out nude photos even display themselves on cam, they didn't have to be manipulated, most were very young too. Why couldn't he of just went in to Yahoo chat and found someone that did this so easlily, rather than sha'rade himself so galantly and hurt someone with innocent intentions.

I know that porn is addicting, could it be he's not getting his fix and now he is after others that he forms a relationship with?

I know that porn is addicting, could it be he's not getting his fix and now he is after others that he forms a relationship with?

You could well be right.  Looking at nude pics of women he knew nothing about probably got a tad boring for him so he wanted someone who is not so freely showing off their body.

I think you had yourself a lucky escape. 

This "episode" does not mean that there aren't some really decent men out there on the internet for you to chat to and at least you will be on your guard from now on.

blue