Shelli 
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« Reply #15 on: November 01, 2009, 08:52:08 PM » |
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LMAO LIPS!!!! The kid I was talking about in my earlier post. I met he and his mom 3 yrs ago we lived in the same Apt complex. He was 5 back then and was yelling at his mom, NOOOOOOOOOOO, I DON'T WANT TO, etc. At first I was in SHOCK, REALY I WAS. Then we became friends and I gave her my advice, u need to beat his ass!!! I just couldn't believe it, cuz I don't let GROWN folks talk to me like that and she couldn't/wouldn't make him stop. My son who was 8 then told her son, I don't even want to play with you cuz you're so rude to your mom. LOLOLOL She didn't listen and I could hardly be around them, thank GOD they moved. Whyyyyyyy did she move 3 doors down from my new house?!?!?!?!? She is a good friend of mine but she won't listen to anyone. She wants to argue when I say something about it, I need some advice here!
P.S. Oh yeah, the pic of the Rocky Jr, the little lion costume, is her son too. What a great example he has in an older brother. 
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« Reply #16 on: November 01, 2009, 10:37:19 PM » |
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I tell you what, I have 3 sons, the oldest is almost 22, almost 10 and 8. I am 5' 4" the oldest stands 6' 2" ...
Areyou serious? YOU LOOK LIKE 17 YOURSELF...HOW COULD YOU POSSIBLY HAVE 22 YEARS OLD? you got to be joking....dang, girl, you look good! Awww, thanks Wnan! I have pics of them in the family photos thread! |
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« Reply #17 on: November 01, 2009, 11:09:37 PM » |
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Girl don't get me started! My sons are GREAT BOYS (well 1 is now a man) they don't talk back they hold open the door for others. They have TOTAL RESPECT for myself, elders and authority. I know for a fact that if I didn't spank their little butts more often than not when they were younger it would be soooooo different.
I am far from a child abuser, I have never left a mark on my boys other than a little redness that disappeared after 5 minutes or so.
They call it the "terrible 2's" for a reason, a child knows the meaning of the word NO but they want to see how far they can push it. If you don't make it clear who the parent is, your child ends up like my neighbors son who is 8, he YELLS at her tells her to SHUT UP, I DON'T WANT TOO etc. and in a horribly disrespectful tone of voice. Or like the kids you see on the talk shows that are 10 yrs old and the parents are afraid of their own child.
We are raising a generation of disrespectful kids who could care less about authority.
I know my mom whooped my @@@ on several occasions and I deserved it EVERYTIME, I think most of us here in the forum have had our share of @@@ whoopin's and there is NOTHIN wrong with us! (hehe)
I could have went ON and ON, but I didn't fee l like having CPS called on my ass! LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!
Shelli you are just keeping it real and I love that!!! Absolutely! They are children and don't know any better unless they are taught by someone who is supposed to know better. Some parents think that talking back and hitting when they are young is cute, but you gotta remember they don't stay little and that same stuff you allowed when they were little will carry over as they grow and then...you got a big ol' monster that you can't control  Talking back to you and anybody else they feel like talking back to and in some cases they even think they might wanna hit you...I tell you what, I have 3 sons, the oldest is almost 22, almost 10 and 8. I am 5' 4" the oldest stands 6' 2" and if he eva even looks like he might be thinking about hitting me...I promise you, he will draw back a NUB!!! I would try to practically take his head off...period!! I know to some of you this sounds like OMG she is an abuser...well I tell you like this, call it what you want to, but before I let any child of mine abuse me I will teach them what abuse means! I am not having it and I will not have them talk to or act crazy with any other adults! I, like Shelli have wonderful boys and I get told that all the time. Part of it is because I have honestly just been blessed with good kids. I don't have to do excessive parenting for them to act like they got some sense. I, again like Shelli got that in check when they were very young. My firstborn tried only once to show out in public and got his little butt whooped and never did it again. Kids even as young as toddlers are very smart and will do what you let them do and they know who they can do it with and who they can't. I will get you in public and whoever wants to call the law go right ahead...hell I'll call em', cause I be damned if I am gonna (carry them for 9 months, go thru the most painful pain ever of birthing them and do every thing I know how to raise them right and shower them with unconditional love and then when they temporarily lose they mind and act a fool in public and get smacked up) let somebody (usually the person who has the brats and teenagers at home making bombs and schemes to kill them with) tell me I am not allowed to do what is necessary and I repeat necessary to keep these kids on track  Our children are a direct reflection of us so we need to make sure that we as parents raise them to reflect that. I keep open communication with my boys so they can tell or ask me anything and I will explain it to them(including why they got a whooping) on a level they can understand. In fact, I usually have them tell me why they got they biscuits burned(whooping)  that way it makes them have to think about their actions and not mine(the whooping)! I got my butt whooped(not like my bad ass sisters though) and I am still alive, I don't have any slave marks on me, I am not in any counseling because of it, I am not angry, I don't go around fighting all the time, its all good. A little ass whooping with alot of LOVE is the best thing you can do for a child Slotjunkie, u r gorgeous!! Can't BELIEVE u have kids that old  Tinmanfan, Thanks so much! It feels good to hear that! I was barely out of my teens when I had him! |
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« Reply #18 on: November 01, 2009, 11:46:11 PM » |
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I totally agree with you Slotjunkie and Shelli. I raised my kids the same way. I also believe it is important for parents to allow their kids to get involved in sports, dance, music, whatever interest they might have because it keeps them busy and out of trouble or at least it worked for my son. My husband and I always got involved with what they did and I enjoyed every minute of it and truly miss it now that they are adults.
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« Reply #19 on: November 02, 2009, 03:34:59 AM » |
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That's right Deb, the involvement in side activities is not only a way to keep them busy, it also helps them to build relationships outside of home and the classroom and it helps build their confidence! My husband and I have been volunteer youth basketball coaches for 3 years now(I had to nudge him a bit, but now he loves it) and I absolutely love the fact that we are their interacting with our children in the things they enjoy doing as well as all of the other children on the team You know you are doing a good thing when the parents an dchildren keep in touch off season and call you before it is time to sign up to make sure you are still coaching because they want their kids to play on your team only I love it when their little faces light up when they see us coming  they run up and give me lots of hugs...it is very special  And like Deb, I am not going to know what to do with myself when they are all grown and gone... |
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