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« Reply #15 on: November 16, 2009, 03:12:39 PM »

Lyndalou, I am so sorry to hear about your mom and dad.  That is so selfish.  Here are my words:

What a person feels about you, is none of your business, that sounds harsh but think about, they are responsible for their own thoughts, feelings and reactions, they will have to live with it as we are responsible for ours.  My family, whewwwww, compared to yours, well yours are saints.  They are cold harded.  I havent seen my brother since my mom's funeral, and he wanted to know who paid for My wedding!  He asked my friends who attended that question?  We havent seen each other since 1994.  Then my stepdad passed on, that was 3 years later, well after the funeral they said well Dad left us everything and he left you what was left of his retirement fund he didnt use .....(2,400 and me and my sister had to split that and she got the boot from the other two sisters and almost had a heartache) nobody talks, two sisters are fighting over the property and assets, (since 1998) so can you imagine this after death.  Now back to your family.  Try this, "PRAY FOR THEM EVERY NIGHT, PRAY FOR THEIR HEALTH, WEALTH, PROSPERITY, AND EVERYTHING YOU WOULD WANT THEM TO HAVE, AND WATCH WHAT HAPPENS."  I CALL IT TURNING IT OVER.  I HAD TO DO THAT ....BECAUSE I DIDNT GET PHONE CALLS BACK, I SENT CARDS AND NO REPLIES..THIS WAS NOT MY MOM AND STEPDAD BUT THE SELFISH SIBLINGS.  ONE DAY THEY WILL NEED YOU.  BUT YOU KEEP ON BEING YOU LYNDALOU, DONT GET ANGRY, ITS A SAD SITUATION BUT YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS, TURN IT OVER, LET THEM GO AND LET GOD!  I DID THIS AND I FEEL BETTER.  THIS IS 2009, AND I STILL DONT COMMUNICATE WITH THEM, BUT I DID WHAT I HAD TO DO AND I KNOW THAT IT WAS THE RIGHT THING.  GO ON WITH YOUR LIFE, WHAT YOU ARE GOING THRU CAN AFFECT YOUR HEALTH, NOT THEIRS, AND THEY ARE GOING ON WITH THEIRS AND YOU ARE MISERABLE AND THEY ARE PARTYING LIKE ITS 1999!  SO LIVE YOUR LIFE AND ENJOY LIFE ON LIFE'S TERMS.  I JUST KNOW FOR ME, I DIDNT GET THAT FAMILY LOVE FROM BLOOD FAMILY, BUT HEY YOU HAVE THE "LCB FAMILY" AND WE DO CARE! 

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« Reply #16 on: November 16, 2009, 07:39:54 PM »

Drawing form the old days when I did family therapy.....Some things to consider.  I will be brief and concise.

First, do not under estimate the power of family of origin issues.  This is poweful stuff and always bigger than you are.

Second, you cannot change other people's behavior.  To attempt to do so almost always leads to a royal mess. 

Third, you can only change your OWN functioning within the family system.  Change you, change the system.  However, it is very, very hard doing this on your own; therefore, you need a "coach", a therapist, to process you through this. 

If you want further feeback how to find a good therapist, send me a PM.

Prayers for you....

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« Reply #17 on: November 16, 2009, 08:24:11 PM »

I really didn't expect as many replys that I have gotten and want to thank each and every one of you! Yes I can see some must think I may need some counciling and such....I am now 46 years of age and all seems to be coming to a head I guess.  After starting my physical therapy, they also started some new things like the spiritual healing and other things just came into place.....wierd how things just happen.  I am truly confused in all aspects.  Like I said before, I talk w/ my younger brother all the time and it was just something that "came up" and he shared his feelings w/ me as I did him.  Never did it come up. have you talked to mom or dad or, sis etc. we just always talk about our everyday living and such. I think it was because neither of us wanted eachother to know what was happening to each other.  He always protected me throughout our growing up years and even now, still protecting my feelings.  I will never forget the sound of his voice when we had the heart to heart talk a couple of weeks ago and I thank God we did...alot came out, he too remembers, even that awful head bang between him and my sister kelly (u know the one who deleted me!) I really want to thank all of you that have replied, you all are very dear to me and it means ALOT! I think Self-healing is starting right here for me!
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« Reply #18 on: November 16, 2009, 09:06:01 PM »

Yes....you are starting some good things!  Obviously a lot of people care about you on LCB!  Just my 2 cents.....keep getting professional counseling in mind.  My own family of origin was a giant MESS!  And I got help years ago and I am VERY glad I did.  The professional "coaching" is priceless....
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« Reply #19 on: November 16, 2009, 09:33:38 PM »

Lynda,

I'm so glad you feel the spiritual healing has begun. It's amazing isn't it, how coming to a site builds such bonds and closeness.

There is a lot of genuine people here that really do come to our rescue. It takes people like you lynda to open your heart. You have perserved through your struggles and still have faith in people.

It's you who should be thanked.......your an inspiration.

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