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« Reply #15 on: October 26, 2009, 08:32:12 PM » |
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Satans.....is the Ex working off some unresolved guilt? Or is this purely a powertrip thing?
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« Reply #16 on: October 26, 2009, 08:41:47 PM » |
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I've been thinking about this let me ask you one question our you really happy in your relationship maybe he is jealous and he wants you to be as miserable as he is there has to be an under lying reason
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« Reply #17 on: October 27, 2009, 12:16:12 PM » |
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It's purely a "he's a retard" thing......no clue what in the world could possibly be going through his head.....I think it's more his wife and mother influenceing him, because he's had no problem walking out of her life before......funny thing is he's got to be one of them most honest/lying person ever.......meaning when we are alone we can talk and work things out and he's open about why he does or doesn't do thing with her, but his wife is terrifed of letting that happen and when she's around he acts like an asshole to make her feel better.............But aside from that I don't see how I could possibly even begin to trust him with her...here comes the lying part, all he does is lie to those closest to him, he tells his daughter he'll be around or call every week....doesn't committ to that, cheats on his wife.....doesn't commit to that, and he thinks he's responsible enough to take her when he can't make a single committment in his life and stick to it..........?
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« Reply #19 on: October 28, 2009, 06:08:15 AM » |
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Shelli. I think you show how keeping the NUMBER ONE rule does work! (Number one rule = never bad mouth your ex in front of your kids.) This almost always backfires in the end. But....as you wrote, you allowed your kids to come to their own conclusion about their dad. Well done!
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« Reply #20 on: October 28, 2009, 06:56:39 AM » |
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Well said Shelli, same here....I never needed to tell her anything bad about him, his absence and his actions now speak for themselves and oddly enough she has expressed to feeling to me and told me that the only reason she's afraid to speak her mind to him and his wife is because she's afraid they won't let her see her siblings if she makes them upset!! Oh and yesterday after she got off of school [she goes to a friends house to do homework] she texted my boyfriend and told him she thinks she just ruined her life.......when she got home I asked her what was wrong and she said she called her dad to tell him she doesn't want to live with him and to drop this before it ends up costing them alot of money....her make her call his wife to tell her [why...I don't know considering he's the one who told me his wife has nothing to do with this and to leave her out of it] and her response was "don't you love us?" and "what about your brother and sister, don't you love them and want to be in their life".......that is really pathetic that they would sink that low and purposely say things just to try and make her feel bad!! Oh well, if that was her intentions lemme tell ya, it BACKFIRED big time!! Instead of feeling bad, she's pissed off that his wife used the kids and she's even more pissed that she tried to whole don't you love us thing....of course she loves them, but that doesn't mean she has to give up her life of them!!!!! Oh and one more thing.......I MADE HER CALL AND SAY EVERYTHING!! At least that what her dad keeps insisting, I guess he doesn't realize that she is an actual human being with thoughts, feelings and emotions, and everytime she calls him and says something he doesn't like he ask her to tell me to stop making her call and say those things..........I have nothing to do with what she feels and she's told him that a dozen times, but hey....you know how stupid people are! |
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« Reply #21 on: October 28, 2009, 08:23:18 AM » |
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Hi Satan,
I can't have kids and don't have any wise things to add here, except I am upset for you, and I hate your situation, and I hope things get better for you.
Nal
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Money talks...and mine says goodbye!
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« Reply #23 on: October 28, 2009, 10:43:06 AM » |
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It really sucks that his dumb ass wife would say some crap like that to a kid. ESPECIALLY a teenage girl. She obviously has NO clue. (want me to go beat her ass??) Just playing but they are both IDIOTS!
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GOOD LUCK ALL!!!!
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« Reply #24 on: October 28, 2009, 11:18:33 AM » |
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lol!!!!!!  shelli, you are so much like me..love you. i was thinking it from the beginning. but i was going to say i was going to kick his ass! sooooooo funny |
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« Reply #25 on: October 28, 2009, 11:25:29 AM » |
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hahaha realy sooooooo funny
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« Reply #26 on: October 28, 2009, 12:59:28 PM » |
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Satan,
You know girl i'm on your side all the way on this one. Don't fret, only the strong survive and you will!!
Like i said just bend over in a short skirt in front of him and his wife....show her what your working with. She can't even begin to compare!!
Save save save all the emails and VM's. This is beautiful evidence as to a character profile in court.
Hang in there......I'm pulling for you girl!!!
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« Reply #27 on: October 28, 2009, 06:04:02 PM » |
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Sorry Lips, but there is nothing to save, but it's all good, ever since the phone call yesterday when she tried to pull the don't yo love us and what about the kids crap...she's friggin hot!!! She sat there and told me she though that was the lowest they could get and if it wasn't for fear of them taking the kids away from her that she would tell them to stay out of her life period.......so pretty much his wife attempt at f***** with her head and trying to make her feel guilty just made her more upset with them........  ! And thank you everyone else for your support, it's really helping alot to be able to vent out here and it's even more helpful hearing all the support you guys are giving me, so from the bottom of my heart THANK YOU ALL!! [man I love LCB] __________________ EDIT BY BLUEDAY Profanity removed. |
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« Reply #28 on: January 21, 2010, 05:20:59 PM » |
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Got an update on this....we finally go to court on the 27'th....we have actually talked and now they are only asking for visitation...so I guess when we go we just show them the arrangements and that's it......I still don't like the idea of visitation, because now it's gonna be more money out of my pocket to meet them halfway everyother week...[we live about 100 miles apart] And of course she has forgiven and forgotten and all I hear about for days after she gets home is Daddy this and Daddy that...I'm glad that she can finally have a relationship with him...but I'm seriously sick of hearing how the person who didn't even acknowledge the fact that she existed for 13 years is suddenly so great! Oh well....that's life I guess, gotta take the good with the bad! I'm not knocking it because it's gonna save alot of headache, but I still got to wonder why they went from I was physical and legal custody to oh wait....we just want visitation....Very strange!!
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« Reply #29 on: January 21, 2010, 06:37:45 PM » |
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Sounds like you've made some progress.
Good job satan.
And once the court crap is over and done with you'll feel a heck of alot better.
As for your daughter suddenly wanting a relationship with dad out of the blue,
I hate saying it but no matter how much of a jerk he is, it might turn out better in the long run.
Btw, I was born in DC and grew up there (georgetown and by the national cathedral)
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