You all know i love doing this hehe.. I always say.. a man can never figure out a woman.. but us women got you men down packed!!

Men's Secret #1 - He Doesn't Always Want
To Spend Time With You.
He might tell you, over and over in
fact, that he loves spending time with
you. And that might lull you into
thinking that the more often you spend
time with each other, the stronger the
relationship becomes.

That's true and false at the same time!

It's true that spending quality time
with each other makes the relationship
stronger. But spend TOO much time with
him, and he might start feeling
suffocated. And he's going to want to
get away from you.

Usually, he'll give excuses such as, "I
can't meet you on Wednesday, I'm
watching a ball game," or "The weekend's
not good for me -- I'd like to rest."

It's just a polite way of saying, "Right
now, I'm not in the mood."

But don't get mad at him -- after all,
taking care of a relationship takes a
lot of energy, and you'll want to give
your man some time to relax.

My advice? Don't pressure him to meet
too often during the week. Often two
meetings a week -- a dinner during the
workday and a longer date on the
weekend, for instance -- is a great
balance.

Men's Secret #2 - He STILL Thinks About
Other Women.
When you catch your man throwing glances
at other women while you're at the mall,
don't get mad. Sure, he may find them
hot, but he's not about to LEAVE you for
them!

It's much the same way you find soap
opera actors attractive. You look at
them, you admire their good looks, and
you may even wonder what it would be
like to have such a great looker as a
boyfriend.

But do you go ahead and leave your
boyfriend for the guy?

No, right?

I hope not!

Men's Secret #3 - He STILL Loves His
Freedom.
No matter how good your boyfriend may be
to you, it's likely that he had a good
bachelor life -- and secretly wishes to
experience the fun he used to have while
still single.

That's why your boyfriend doesn't seem
to miss you all that much, especially if
you meet more than twice a week. He's
finding his "free time" a lot more
enjoyable.

But don't get mad if he does. Instead,
let him enjoy his free time. After all,
absence makes the heart grow fonder --
and he'll miss you more if he hasn't
seen you in three days than if you just
had a date yesterday!

Men's Secret #4 - He Secretly Doesn't
Want You To Do Better Than Him
Financially
Naturally, it's always a good thing to
advance your career or grow your
businesses, especially as the big "M"
word gets recited more and more in your
relationship.

But secretly, he likes it better if he
was making more money than you were.
It's a guy thing -- after all, it's been
Mother Nature's design that the males of
the species brought home the bacon,
while the females cooked it.

Now how would a guy feel if his
girlfriend both brought home the bacon
AND cooked it?

The best way to avoid this problem is to
NOT talk about your job, your
businesses, or your stock portfolio too
much. If you know you're making more
than he is, don't mention it.

Instead, try to encourage him to grow
his own career. Ask him constructive
questions, such as, "You've been working
hard lately. When's the promotion
coming?" or "I see you like fixing
things. Ever thought of turning that
into a little extra cash for yourself?"

Men's Secret #5 - He Loves You More As
Time Goes By.

Hard to believe, huh?

But seriously -- he DOES tend to love
you more and more as time goes by.
Several scientific studies have shown
this.

Here's the thing -- he just doesn't tell
you.

Which, of course, is a good thing. How
would you feel if he told you, "I love
you more today"? Naturally, you'll be
wondering, "Why? You mean you didn't
love me as much yesterday?"

Men know it's risky to tell you that
they love you more as time goes by. So
they don't say it.

The problem is that some women worry too
much about this. They worry that the
"loving feeling" may be slipping away.

Of course, the WORRY actually makes it
worse!

Whenever you worry, you cast a shadow of
gloom over the relationship. Even if you
don't tell him you're worried, he'll
sense it. And it'll make him feel
uncomfortable in the relationship.

So here's my tip -- get rid of the
worry. Focus on the positive sides of
the relationship. After all, whatever
you focus on GROWS!

source:Alexandra Fox

So you beleive men would rather NOT have their woman all up under them constantly?

You know, i have dated and have had friends including my own daughter date men that won't let us out of their sight, it's like every 5 minutes.. ooop there he is with "what you doing" "where you going" "i need something" or the phone rings constantly.. so what is up with that?

#4? of course i want my partner to make more...less work for me but with the same amount of beer money

Doc, I'll put on my Einstien cap, just because I can't spell Frued, (Sigmund). Yes it's sad, when a gal believes she has to be joined at the hip with her man. But we must not forget, the male species, can be just as demanding, not wanting the poor gal to leave his eye sight. Finishing, then you'll have couples, where the two of them, just can't seem to get enough of each other. Here's the bottom line to this, and I believe you'll agree. We're human beigns, thats right, supposedly the most intelligent, strongest creature on the planet. Unfortunately, any good Doc will tell ya, we're flawed. These three issues I mentioned, are all fixable, some people can fix it on there own, others will need help. Years of help, unfortunately.
I believe we're all of at least average intelligence or better here in the forum, and I'm not sure why I wanted to put on the Einstien Cap, ( I pretty sure I have drain bamadge). I guess I probably went through a bit of this, way back 70's. Anyway it's called Co-Dependency, believe it or not. It's just as crippling as drugs, or alcohol, if left un-checked.

Anyway it's Halloween, Everybody have a good one, win lots of money, get lot's of Candy, etc.
                                      Rico

ricorizzo....good comments.  Yes, we are all different, and "healthy functioning" has many looks and styles to it.

You hit on the key point.  It is UNhealthy when it is codependency.  A husband and wife may be joined at the hip and YET remain very self- differentiated.  This would be rare, but it does occur.  I stand on my premise that most jointed-at-the-hip couples are codependent, however....and will probably raise kids who gravitate toward codpendent relationships.

Look at it this way.  A joined-at-the-hip couple have a daughter.  They are joined at the hip because they have "no life" appart from each other.  This will highly influence the daugter's life the same way = have no life and overly cling to another.  Now, do you REALLY want to be the guy who marries this woman?  And have these folks as inlaws?  If you do, "family management" will be very, very burdensome. 

Ahhh...I remember the therapy days when I was practicing!  Wife swears up and down their relationship is WONDERFUL.  "We do everything together! My spouse is my best friend!  We never make a move without each other!  We are soulmates!" 

Husband confesses he plays along, feels sufficated, secretly downloads porn by the gigabit, and employs midget escorts when he is on business trips.

I must have married a Klingon (cling-on).  For real, during the daylight hours I can't use the toilet without him waltzing in.  And if, God forbid, he gets out of the house ever, he calls me 5-6 times a day.  He's called twice while I was writing this!  Maybe I'd appreciate it more if....oh well, if I couldn't write a book about his bad behavior.  Make that a series of books! 

You're right ricorizzo.  I too used to be the klingon.  Now, though, it's like all I want is breathing room!  Jake and I don't have the best of relationships, and I also find he gets over things (flip-flops) in minutes and it takes me days.  So, for me it's hard letting him be all clingy and touchy-feely 3 minutes after he just did some horrible manly thing or another, doesn't work.  And he can't ever seem to just stay away from me long enough for me to get over the issues and cuddle.  I'm starting to hate that word, and that sucks, cuz I'd love to cuddle with a cuddle-able husband!  So I spend all my time pushing him away.  And it's only when he goes away that I start wanting him to be around.  Dumb, I know.